The 4 Levels of Life I Dominated Before I Became a Femdom

A Femdom with substance is not born one. She’s made.

Through twists and turns and identities formed and molded, though the path towards domination has been the most arousing and fulfilling one for me, it has not been a linear one. I spent most of my life first developing the traits I’d need to become a forceful and compelling Domme, one capable of leading and taking on the responsibilities required.

My final form as a Femdom began when I took the reins of my strong sexuality. Up until then, I had never explored the dominant urges I'd felt throughout my life. I’d heard the whispers from my shoulders, which I had swept away over and over.

When I knocked on the door of exploration, it was a masculine and experienced submissive that answered. At first, I'd wanted him as a conquest but then he flung open the world of D/s and provided a non-judgmental space for me to enter, offering himself as canvas for me to unleash years of hushed domination on. Our attraction and connection were palpable and intense. The result was the complete emergence of the dominant inside me. It took over who I had been in my daily life, as I required more and more control.

By then I had already conquered and then molded myself. A dominant is only as formidable as the battles she’s fought within, the hard looks and accountability she’s taken, the scars left behind her reminder of the wisdom and calm she’s gained in return.

Before breaking in and molding my own slave, there were 4 stages in my life I mastered and shaped the force of nature that had been brewing inside me.

First Level: The Quiet Self Gagged Stage

Femdoms are known for being vocal in their demands. Before I became one however, I enjoyed solitude in a group of people. My world was inside my head. I was always thinking, analyzing, listening and observing what happened around me.

I didn’t realize I was collecting invaluable data on human behavior and psychology. I deciphered what people were saying through their body language and heard what they were keeping from the world. I felt the slightest differences in patterns and behaviors.

People watching from cafes, parks and anywhere I could be alone in a sea of people, became the education I paid for with the price of a cup of coffee. It became a fascination and a passion that only grew with time.

I studied- Quirks. Needs. Egos. Masks. I bit my lip as I put together in my head who they really were at their core.

I developed a 360 view of people and I connected every dot along the way- their decisions, their values and beliefs, their flaws and strengths, salivating over my accuracy.

When I learn about my subs I dig deep into their thoughts and experiences. I lick around their psyche, like honey dripping onto my tongue.  

Inside their minds is where my dark haven lies now. 

Second Level: The Free from Bondage Exploratory Stage

I had a hunger to know the world and I touched, tasted, and seduced it all.

Travel. Road trips. International Work. Evenings on rooftops, dining tables and lounge areas immersed in unusual, intriguing and provocative conversations about life with people from all walks of it.

Treks on beaches, summitting mountain tops, venturing close to volcanoes, white water rafting into jungles, close calls and trench work. These were my expeditions. My personal research on life. I learned that the world worked in full color and that the people in it are full of all shades of gray. My biggest realization then was that I am also many shades of unconventional and open minded. I learned that being an outlier and exception were strengths because I met many like me.    

Just like the submissives I have met are and who I now mentor.

Third Level: The Building & Solidification -No Hard Limits Stage

I was coming together in a fortified way. I internalized and crafted the art of stoicism and self-sufficiency- mental, physical and especially in my decision making. I controlled my emotions and thought long and hard before reacting to the challenges I faced.

The one thing I focused on was a life of no regrets. What we feel because of what happens to us, we don’t control -pain, anger, rage and sadness.

What we can control is also the hardest for me to live with - regret.

I’d had a few by then and I resolved to never have it in my life again.

I purged from my life behaviors that no longer served or had never served me and focused only on expanding the ones that did. I maximized my balanced traits- my rationale and logic, my empathy and compassion and created an armor around the resourcefulness and resilience I acquired from them.

I forged in steel the quality of traits I now use to persuade the collapse of the hard limits of the submissives I mentor.  

Fourth Level: The TPE Strategy & Persuasion Stage

At this final stage I have dominion over and apply what I have collected and collared under my control. I elevate the strategies I use to carve the path and map out outcomes in my mind before I take a single step to entice my submissives.

I see 3 moves ahead in every direction. I savor tapping into their core and penetrating their thoughts as I sink my teeth into psychological domination.

I use my full and complete lens to lure in and steer my subs. I lead without demanding it. They serve me because they want to be in my presence, they crave my guidance and mentorship and when I tell them to get on their knees or on all fours, they crumble before me at the mere suggestion.

I pull the rug from under them, domme them psychologically and switch and shift their perspectives as I strengthen their need for service into a thriving subspace in their daily lives.

I crafted a 360 degree Femdom who brings an irresistible toolset of dominance to the table they now serve me under and it all started with a little bit of self-imposed bondage and discipline.. ; )